Yesterday we launched our brand new coaching programme for women – called The Success Mindset Programme. It’s a 6 session journey, led by Chloe, that’s designed to help you to create a true success mindset – something that’s so important when you run a small business. But that said, we all have wobbles. We all have difficult days. So as well as learning to build one that propels you to where you want to be, you also need to have measures in place to look after your mindset once it’s built.
But think for a minite. What do you do when you’re having a difficult day? When the negative chatter starts to creep in? How about the dreaded Imposter Syndrome? There’s no right answer to this, but instead, here are a few of my own experiences:
1) Take a step back
When we’re having a wobble, it can be all-consuming. We start to doubt and question things. Worry about the tiny details and focus on the ‘what if’s. Our emotions try to take over. Instead, I find it helpful to pause. To take a step back from whatever the situation is and try to consider it objectively. If, for example, you find your confidence knocked by a competitor, take a step back and think about why that is. Is it because they have way more Instagram followers than you? Or maybe you’re feeling threatened because they’re suddenly stocking a similar product to yours. By taking a step back and considering the situation objectively, we start to realise that, while Instagram followers are great, they don’t necessarily translate to sales. And those products? Well, they may be similar at first glance, but the particular retail experience that you offer might be totally different. And different customers have different needs after all!
When we take a step back, we therefore realise that our wobble isn’t quite what we thought it was, and our worries recede. You become able to think more clearly, and turn what seemed to be a negative situation into a positive one, and potentially a learning experience.
2) Take on the challenge
Everyone is different, and so some tactics work for one person, but not for others. This particular one isn’t right for everyone, but it definitely works for me. Basically, if someone (an actual person or the internal gremlin whispering in my ear) tells me I’m not capable of doing something, I try as hard as I can to prove them wrong. For example, tell me that I won’t get more than a D at history GCSE, and I’ll do my absolute best to get an A (and I did!). Tell me I can’t progress in a role unless I ‘be’ a certain way, I’ll leave you behind and show you that I can. Essentially, give me a challenge and I’ll rise to it! So next time someone or something tells you that you can’t, stop and tell them/it to be quiet. Then prove to them, and yourself, that you can. Learn to look after your mindset in this way, and your sense of resolve becomes so much stronger.
3) Hear it from others
If number 2 doesn’t quite work for you, you could try talking to others. Share your worries and your wobbles. Often you’ll find that you knew the answer after all, but talking things through can help you feel more secure in your decisions. Again, I find that this one if a real personal choice. But the number one rule is that you should feel absolutely comfortable when, and where, you do. You should be sure that you’ll receive support, constructive advice, and not feel judged in any way. Some people choose to confide in a friend, relative or even a colleague, coach or trusted adviser. For others, it’s more about knowing that there’s somewhere you could go if you wanted to talk, rather than actually talking. And that alone can be enough to look after your mindset. I definitely fit into the latter group, and that’s perfectly ok.
4) Be more mindful
This is quite a new one in my particular toolbox. Until a few years ago, it was never something I thought I had time for. I’m not one for meditating or anything like that, but what I’ve discovered is that I really appreciate the opportunity to be ‘in the moment’. In a way, this is an extension of point 1 above. It’s an opportunity to pause, take stock, switch off and reset. Again this, for me, is a way to take the edge off whatever is causing the wobble or the doubt to creep in.
There are lots of ways to accomplish this too. My particular favourites are baking, drawing – I love drawing people from photos – and my bullet journal.
5) Untouchable Days
I’ve talked about Untouchable Days on this blog before and this article from Harvard Business Review explains the concept well. Basically it’s the idea of a time out – for either your wellbeing, to work on your business rather than in it, or both! I find this is a great way to look after your mindset as it allows you to step away from the business as usual and focus on the bigger picture. Taking the time to remind yourself of your why, and the steps you’re planning to take it happen, can be hugely beneficial.
These are just a few of my thoughts on how you can look after your mindset. But if your mindset is more of the fixed variety, or it’s holding you back from achieving the success that you’re looking for, reach out. Join us on a six session journey to create your own success mindset, and start working towards making your dreams a reality.